That is one ugly cluster expletive of an alarm install, has someone unbolted the relays and moved them, someplace behind all the "zip ties" and electrical tape, this is what it should look like... http://www.tegger.com/hondafaq...p.jpg it is right next to one of 2 nuts, [left] holding the steering column in place, the bolt holding the PGM-Main Relay in place can't be more then an inch or two to the left of that nut.

Cut a few of the "zip ties" and move those harness out of the way, like in the pix I link you should be able to see the PGM-Main Relay.

See the white 4 pin plug in your 2nd pix the one that is the lowest in the pix and almost in the middle of the pix, and has a black, [maybe violet] "dot" on the bottom of it you can also see a white W/red stripe wire in the plug, now look at the pix I link you to, the plug is in the lower middle of the pix at more of an angle, and no "dot" but you can see the white/red wire and a blue one they should be the same plugs and the PGM-Main Relay should/is directly above it. 94

 

sweeeet!!!