I've already posted, and here is what I did so far. As the guru's of Honda-Tech recommended I did change the alternator, and got another battery. Still the same symptoms. Fuses #51 and #44 blow. 51 blows as soon as I insert it with the battery connected, 44 blows when I insert the key and turn it one (so whn the battery connects to the relay). I put my relay in another 97, and it started right up. So most likely it's a wiring??? If it is, may be someone can at least direct me on what to find and how to find, may be where those two circuits interact, so they can ground each other or something like that. Please help, I am desperate