Battery- Good
Starter- Good

currently i found oil in my spark plugs i got rid of that but, i dont know how longs its been there took off valve covers and it was kinda toasty

still not starting, any other suggestions why?
Starter relay maybe? and where is it located

 

Is the starter responding or not; or is it cranking but not starting?
Automatic or standard transmission?

 

starter clicks and doesnt crank
it responds wen i get some one to engage the key and hold it in and i jump the starter/solenoid, then it fires right up then i can drive like normal again, but if i turn the car off and try to start all it does is click,

Automatic tranny

 

The solenoid that is attached to the starter has seen its last days. By jumping the solenoid, you're bypassing the high current portion allowing the current to get the the starter proper.
Considering how long it's probably been on there, I'd suggest a new starter.

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hmph, will it help to let you know that i've pulled the starter and tested it at the local oreily's and we did 3 runs and it passed

 

When you say "jump the starter" do you mean jump between two terminals, or what?

 

not the battery terminals, i meant the starter power and solenoid

 

So you're just not getting power to your starter.

 

Automatic:
I suspect either the Ignition switch (column mounter) or the Trans Quadrant Position switch mounted to the shifter assembly in the center console.
If you haven't noticed anything funky with the dash mounted quadrant display (not agreeing with the shifter position) I'd suspect the ignition switch first

refer:

1997 Honda ACCORD Recall ID from NHTSA: 02V120000
Auto Recall Date: 05/16/2002
Vehicle Component: ELECTRICAL SYSTEM:IGNITION:SWITCH
Estimated Vehicles Affected: 1000000
1997 HONDA ACCORD Defect Summary:
ON CERTAIN SEDANS, COUPES, HATCHBACKS, AND SPORT UTILITY VEHICLES, ELECTRICAL CONTACTS IN THE IGNITION SWITCH CAN DEGRADE DUE TO THE HIGH ELECTRICAL CURRENT PASSING THROUGH THE SWITCH WHEN THE VEHICLE IS STARTED.
Defect Consequence:
WORN CONTACTS COULD CAUSE THE ENGINE TO STALL WITHOUT WARNING, INCREASING THE RISK OF A CRASH.
Remedy:
DEALERS WILL REPLACE THE IGNITION SWITCH. OWNER NOTIFICATION BEGAN JUNE 14, 2002. OWNERS WHO TAKE THEIR VEHICLES TO AN AUTHORIZED DEALER ON AN AGREED UPON SERVICE DATE AND DO NOT RECEIVE THE FREE REMEDY WITHIN A REASONABLE TIME SHOULD CONTACT HONDA AT 1-800-999-1009 OR ACURA AT 1-800-382-2238.
Notes: AMERICAN HONDA MOTOR CO.,

It can also effect starting