Off topic, I'm sorry, I'm torn up over this ****.

Throughout my entire life, I've never dealt with death of any kind. In the past few months, I've lost three good friends, one of which was like a bigger brother to me growing up.

In September, Josh (Who was like a bigger brother to me growing up) was mugged in NYC, knocked out, and was dumped in the middle of the highway, where the obvious cause of death took him away from us. The bastards were never caught, the police aren't doing **** about it. Josh was an amazing artist, song writer, and musician, that is still very well known in the NYC area by the name of LEFTist with his group Mindspray. Our families grew up together since I was 4 or 5, his younger brother was my best friend in younger years, and I always looked up to Josh.



In December, Leigh (Who was a close friend of mine) got into an arguement with his girlfriend, in which she said to him "You don't love me." Being as quick to act without thinking as Leigh was, he decided to take his own life... No clue what he was thinking, he obviously wasn't. His problem was, he never thought before he acted, which is why he was so good at sports/surfing/skateboarding/etc, he had no fear. This time, however, it costed him, and everyone significantly.

*Don't have a picture of Leigh*

And last night, Hunter (Who was a close friend of mine since freshmen year in high school) left a party (No, he was not drunk, he didn't drink anything) last night, swerved to miss a deer or a passing car (Police aren't sure yet), ran into a curb, and by some freak of nature, the car went verticle, and wrapped itself around a pine tree, roof first. He died on impact. Hunter was the greatest guy anyone would ever meet, he never had a frown on his face, he treated every person with respect that he came into contact with, and he got along with everyone. It didn't matter how shitty of a day you had, Hunter would find a way to brighten it up, be it with some corny humor, or just by sitting and talking. I met Hunter in football freshmen year, and we were friends since day one, he was always a great guy to be around, for everyone.



*Added a picture of the car*



I'm having a tough time with this. I don't know how to deal with it, and I can't stay drunk 24 hours a day. I figure between everyone on this forum, most of you have probably dealt with death before, and aren't such emo pussies about it... So, any ideas? Anything to recommend to take my mind off my fallen brothers?

Sometimes life just piles the **** on. I guess it could be worst, I could be in Josh/Leigh/Hunter's shoes.


Modified by GO-FIGHT-KILL at 9:13 PM 7/23/2007

 

they say it comes in "three's" ive lost a couple friends within the years and it doesnt ever seem to slow down, just dont take advantage of the friends, loved ones you have left and live life to the fullest

"live life like there is no tomorrow because no one makes it out alive" is a quote that everyone should live by imo

sorry for your losses

 

I feel for you bro...Stay strong.

 

Your friends are in a better place now
Maybe we should all live like we mean it...

 

I'm very sorry to hear this man. They do say it comes in three's. January 06 I lost my best friend of 12 years. October 06 I lost my grandma (probably the person I cared about most and the person I was closest to) I also lost an uncle in the same month and am losing another uncle within the next couple months. I hope you figure out ways to cope man, it's tough to deal with things like this. Just keep your head up no matter how hard it seems. Be strong for yourself, but remember to be strong for others as well. Everyone close to you and the boys needs help coping too. I hope you may someday find peace with everything. It won't be soon and things will never go back to normal, but someday you will be able to feel at least somewhat more comfortable with things. Grieving can take many years, just know that any denial, anger, or frustration you feel about it is alright. Most people need to deal with those things before they can overcome losses as great as these. Again I'm really sorry to hear this and it takes a lot for you to pour everything out like this. If you need anything feel free to hit me up on PM and I might be able to help you with a resolution.

 

<TABLE WIDTH="90%" CELLSPACING=0 CELLPADDING=0 ALIGN=CENTER><TR><TD>Quote, originally posted by Jay D. Em &raquo;</TD></TR><TR><TD CLASS="quote">I'm very sorry to hear this man. They do say it comes in three's. January 06 I lost my best friend of 12 years. October 06 I lost my grandma (probably the person I cared about most and the person I was closest to) I also lost an uncle in the same month and am losing another uncle within the next couple months. I hope you figure out ways to cope man, it's tough to deal with things like this. Just keep your head up no matter how hard it seems. Be strong for yourself, but remember to be strong for others as well. Everyone close to you and the boys needs help coping too. I hope you may someday find peace with everything. It won't be soon and things will never go back to normal, but someday you will be able to feel at least somewhat more comfortable with things. Grieving can take many years, just know that any denial, anger, or frustration you feel about it is alright. Most people need to deal with those things before they can overcome losses as great as these. Again I'm really sorry to hear this and it takes a lot for you to pour everything out like this. If you need anything feel free to hit me up on PM and I might be able to help you with a resolution.</TD></TR></TABLE>

Thats very nice of you. As for the the OP keep your head up.

 

When things get down... take your R for a ride Things can only get better. I know its a hard loss, but it just makes you appreciate things that much more.

 

Sorry duder, keep your head up.

 

Appreciate it guys.

I woke up this morning, and I felt better for some reason... Which is strange, because I have felt horrible every single day since Josh died (Which was 9 months ago), and even more so after Leigh and Hunter. I was feeling really bad last night after I heard the news of Hunter.

Guess I gotta' just deal with it (i.e Be a man about it), move on, and remember the good times I had with each of them.

Hopefully I won't have to lose another close friend for a long time. God I'm such an emo ***** about death, I can take just about anything, but someone close to me dying... Then I may as well just put on eyeliner, grab a razor blade and go join JUN.R in the corner while blasting some Good Charlotte.

 

No leave Jun R alone. He is Co starring in my new movie "Greasy Leather 3 - No Baby Lotion"

 

sorry to hear that jordy.....stay strong!!!!

 

<TABLE WIDTH="90%" CELLSPACING=0 CELLPADDING=0 ALIGN=CENTER><TR><TD>Quote, originally posted by Dudestur &raquo;</TD></TR><TR><TD CLASS="quote">No leave Jun R alone. He is Co starring in my new movie "Greasy Leather 3 - No Baby Lotion" </TD></TR></TABLE>

... Ok, I have a visual mind... Which means, I hear a sentence, or a series of words, and my mind automatically visualizes it. So thank you for that horrifying mental image you just gave me Duderstur, I appreciate it. *goes to throw up*

 

^ Aww cmon! We put an exclamation on brown nosing.

 

Sorry to hear that, I haven't really delt with any close deaths in my life so I have no real advice to give but to just do as others say and keep your head up and know that these friends are in a better place and looking over you and they want you to enjoy life to the fullest.

 

omg man this has given me chills down my spine. Hope you get through this ordeal and i hope the families are trying their best to do so as well

 

<TABLE WIDTH="90%" CELLSPACING=0 CELLPADDING=0 ALIGN=CENTER><TR><TD>Quote, originally posted by jgirard &raquo;</TD></TR><TR><TD CLASS="quote">Sorry to hear that, I haven't really delt with any close deaths in my life so I have no real advice to give but to just do as others say and keep your head up and know that these friends are in a better place and looking over you and they want you to enjoy life to the fullest.</TD></TR></TABLE>

Appreciate it man. I doubt they'd want to be looking over me though, they might see some **** they'd rather not.

<TABLE WIDTH="90%" CELLSPACING=0 CELLPADDING=0 ALIGN=CENTER><TR><TD>Quote, originally posted by JDM knowledge &raquo;</TD></TR><TR><TD CLASS="quote">omg man this has given me chills down my spine. Hope you get through this ordeal and i hope the families are trying their best to do so as well</TD></TR></TABLE>

Man I can't imagine how hard it is for immediate family to lose someone so young, so unexpectedly. It was very tough with Josh, because like I said, our families are VERY close, so I had to watch everything unfold before my eyes... It was tough for everyone, it still is.

 

I can relate as well. My cousin was killed by a drunk driver back in May of 07 and it was one of my toughest times. Still cant get over it because he was just nicest guy and loved helping everyone out. Just the wrong place at the wrong time

 

That seems to be the problem...

 

sorry to hear about this **** jordy. Ive lost a few friends, most recently a few months ago. dealing with it and feeling sad about it has nothing to do with being a man. you lost someone you love and only time can heal those wounds. acceptance is the key and remembering what the person was about and how loved they were by you and their friends and family. we are having a reunion show this saturday for matty, who died a few months ago, its gonna be an amazing time. more of a celebration of the spirit that kid had than a somber remembrance. one of the best kids you would ever meet and he is missed dearly. youll be fine bro, just live your life to the fullest and dont forget about those who have moved on without us.

let me introduce you to matty, one of the best kids ever. RIP

 

Man, that's really tough...I don't know what to say except my prayers are with ya man.

 

Keep your head up. Time heals even though sometimes it seems to take forever.
When in doubt just think, Greasy Leather 3.
I think some photochops are gonna come outta this one.

 

I am struggle to think of words to express my sympathy. I know all too well how deep and painful the loss of not one, but two or three close friends in less than 9 months. My prayers and thoughts are with you.

 

Though your friends and loved ones are gone, all the fond memories keeps them alive in our hearts.

 

Damn, sorry to hear all this. Sudden deaths are the worst, no warning, just snatched out of your life for ever. Awfully hard to find closure in these situations. Personally, I don't think I'd ever find closure with what happened to Josh. That's just un fuucking real. I can't believe people would really throw an unconscious person out on a highway after mugging them. So pointless. I could never forgive the trash of humanity that did that.

Good luck with the days and months ahead. Cherish your memories of them while they were alive, and never take for granted anyone who is here today.

 

That's why we thank God, Buddha, Allah, etc.....for the lives we have now. We've all been through a lot of crap, trust me. Be kind to your neighbors and stay up, peace!