trying to find the answer on which pin on the ecu to wire my aem wideband up to so i can datalog it. right now i'm just using the stock wideband and i want to change that. also do i disable the o2 sensor response at that point for the stock one?

 

You can use the ELD pin.
Go to http://hondata.com/help/kmanager/index.html
Click on search, type wideband

 

Uses the same voltage to air/fuel numbers as you would Input on aem management?

 

Yes, refer to the aem uego gauge install instructions for the voltage output.