and where is it at

 

Tranny control module
Ecu control module
Primary control module

Many of them and all at different locations in different civics from 1992-2000. Better start specifying y0.

 

whichever would prevent my fuel pump from turning on and me not getting any spark

 

That could possibly be your ECU (Engine Control Unit), which is located under the passenger side kick-board. It is more likely though, your main relay. That is above the hood latch on the driver's side. A little box, IIRC.

There is no real "control module" per-se. Obviously you know zilch about cars, whoever told you this bit of advice was speaking in a very generic sense.