my ? is. for this mount do you have to bend the rear cross member a little bit to bolt the mount on?

 

I didn't have to bend anything

 

OK... how about lining it up with the tranny... did you have to drop the motor first, with the da rear bracket and line it up and mark where you would drill the holes. correct?

 

You shouldn't have to drill any holes.

 

When I mounted the motor in I just used the front and the side tranny mount. After I got those two on And semi snug I mounted the rear t-bracket to the trans and rocked the motor back till the rear mount lined up and bolted it in place. all went together without a hitch