Well recently a nasty turn of events has occured. Lately i've been getting into it with my wife.....bullshit really. Pointless arguing over stupid stuff. Ridiculous accusations from her about trust and a web of lies I keep catching her in.

Months and months of nothing but arguing and yelling. And then it finally happened. After 4 years together, 1 and a half years of marriage, and a 3 year old son she decides to throw me out of the house. And for what? Because she can't trust me.

I had no friends.....no buddies.....just started a new job.....and no family to go to cause they are all up in Chicago. She cold-heartedly throws me out with absolutely nowhere to go. And thank god I was able to come up with a little bit of money to manage to stay in a hotel room until I could find a place to stay after a month of living out of hotel rooms.

Told me to stay away from "HER" son and not to come around again. I don't know what the f*ck just happened to her, but it's almost like the devil got into her.

I honestly don't know what went wrong. I was a father and a husband and somewhere something went to absolute ****.

Now I am just starting to start my life over again, but it is hard as hell. Harder than you could possibly imagine after being with someone for soo long and having a child together.

Again I apologize for this being soo off topic and I deeply hope NONE of you have to go through what i've been through because i've never felt soo empty in my life.

This really sucks. I never imagined this happening to me.

I wish you all the best while I get everything together and hope you all never have to experience any of this.

-- Rico

 

People change... sadly for you there is a kid involved.

I was in a similar situation when my fiance & I broke it off...even more pissed because the only reason i bought an si was to save some $ every month to offset the rent/ring/wedding account. & like 2 months later caught her cheating.

But that which does not kill us only makes us stronger.

keep ur head up.

oh and never trust bitches.... none of them
not even your mom

 

I think she's projecting the lack of trust against you because she's the one up to no good.

How can she kick you out of the house, I'm sure you at least split the rent/mortgage?

 

im real sorry man. you need one

i quote Type X

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this is 100% true and is what i think about when i go through tough times.

good luck to you man...stay strong

 

I agree with Ed. Dont let her to kick you out of your house, thats the bullshit. I have watched as my family has torn its self apart around me and it all comes down to someone being up to no good (in this case, my mom) But just remember man, everything happens for a reason, my dad and stepdad are much more successful now then they were married the first time and its not too hard on the kids. Cheer up and go take your house back man

 

That is BS she is def up to something hopefully she isnt bringing another man in the house while your living in a hotel away from your son. I hope things works out for you ive been through something similar but it didn't go this far you don't deserve it i hope you find out whats really going on and you can see your son again

 

I agree, it's half yours and good luck getting through this.

 

Best of luck partner, its never easy going through times like this. If you truly love this woman then things will work themselves out in time.

 

that sucks man. i hope it all works out. if i was you, i would get a different car and sit down the street one night and just see if she is up to no good. they say that the accuser is the one that has something to be accused of. i hope it all works out in the end. contact some legal help and see how this can be resolved rationally and with minimal drama to the kid

 

Drugs... Or shes Bi-Polar... I would bet drugs...

SMo'

 

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But that which does not kill us only makes us stronger.

keep ur head up.

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I hear ya bro. I'm in the military and i'm taught about bearing, discipline, and "sucking it up". But we're all human and there's only so much someone can take. I never in my life have broken down before like I did after I had to drive away that night.

I never felt like dying more so than I did that night. To know i'll never get to see my son again. I had my life literally stripped away in a matter of minutes......and for what....

 

I am guessing she has mental health issues. Is there a history of them in her family? Sometimes it takes awhile for these symptoms to manifest themselves. The thing you have to realize is that she may not be able to help herself, many of these conditions are just like a disease and are caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. For your sake I would refer her to a psychiatrist and hope they can figure out what is going on. If that doesn't work then make sure you get yourself a good lawyer to make sure you are treated fairly in the divorce process.

Jon

 

Never see your son again? Dude, your a Military man, you should know a bit about the rights you have...

SMo'

 

call "cheaters"

lady issues are never easy....i took years to get where me and my wife are now.

 

<TABLE WIDTH="90%" CELLSPACING=0 CELLPADDING=0 ALIGN=CENTER><TR><TD>Quote, originally posted by RICO_ &raquo;</TD></TR><TR><TD CLASS="quote">Well recently a nasty turn of events has occured. Lately i've been getting into it with my wife.....bullshit really. Pointless arguing over stupid stuff. Ridiculous accusations from her about trust and a web of lies I keep catching her in.

Months and months of nothing but arguing and yelling. And then it finally happened. After 4 years together, 1 and a half years of marriage, and a 3 year old son she decides to throw me out of the house. And for what? Because she can't trust me.

I had no friends.....no buddies.....just started a new job.....and no family to go to cause they are all up in Chicago. She cold-heartedly throws me out with absolutely nowhere to go. And thank god I was able to come up with a little bit of money to manage to stay in a hotel room until I could find a place to stay after a month of living out of hotel rooms.

Told me to stay away from "HER" son and not to come around again. I don't know what the f*ck just happened to her, but it's almost like the devil got into her.

I honestly don't know what went wrong. I was a father and a husband and somewhere something went to absolute ****.

Now I am just starting to start my life over again, but it is hard as hell. Harder than you could possibly imagine after being with someone for soo long and having a child together.

Again I apologize for this being soo off topic and I deeply hope NONE of you have to go through what i've been through because i've never felt soo empty in my life.

This really sucks. I never imagined this happening to me.

I wish you all the best while I get everything together and hope you all never have to experience any of this.

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First off i would like to say that im sorry. Dang bro i dont know whats going on. I hope for the best for you 3. Oh i would like to ask you a couple of questions....

Are you and her Christians?
Is God the Center of the marriage?

Just most marriages today end because God is not the center of the marriage. Yeah and she might be up to no good herself. Just think about it homie. I will pray for you and your family man and i pray that everything gets better homie...

God Bless....

 

Keep your head up bro. It will get better.

 

I don't want to be a dick because I am also a Christian, but now is not the time to be prostelatizing or telling him that his marriage was doomed to fail if he wasn't a Christian.

Jon

 

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Sry playa i didnt mean it like that.

 

Yea' I was about to get a little pissed about that too, lol... God does not need to be the center of your life, for most people church is like Alcoholics Anonymous for how to live your life... If you have good morals and are level headed then no worries... You are 20 years old and preaching about what it takes to keep a family together, aint that a bunch of ****... Heres a towl, dry off your brain...

I still say its Drugs...

SMo'

 

I feel your pain. Go back to Chicago. Start over again. Family will always be there for you. Time heals, just keep your head up and set a new goal.

 

sucks dude, but remember that you can begin again and solve the problems that took you to this situation...not saying youre the one to blame, but in marriage almost anything is a two-person type of thing...
i sincerely hope the best for you, and specially for your kiddo....the girl, well....remember there are only 2 kinds or women....the bitch3s and the ones that can fly...

 

She got bent due to the amount of time you spend on Honda-tech.com. Man, 23 and a 3 year old son, I've spent 95% of my 20s in clubs and meeting hoochies. lol
My 2c or advice is to go and swallow your pride and build some trust. Show her, prove to her that you are a great husband.

 

I feel for you. I was married 9 years and had a 7 year old son when my wife walked out and took my son with her. She did this 2 days before I was scheduled for a major spine operation. I was crippled and could not walk which was why she left.

We had a 4 bedroom house (with a hefty mortgage), 4 cars and lots of luxuries. When I was in the hospital, she came to the house and took everything she wanted and left me with the mess and a mortgage I could not pay myself. I had no time to seek an attorney prior to my surgery.

When I was released from the hospital I needed constant care for 4 months. I went back to my home and had my mother come over to help me each day. After 3 months of not paying the mortgage, the bank started foreclosure on the house and I had to move, as well as try to find a way to move the remaining furniture and items my wife left behind. I was forced to move back in with my mother and watch most of the things I had saved (and had sentimental value) over the years (furniture, hobbies, ect), get hauled away to the dump. When I was able to go back to work (Microsoft), I found my job had been "restructured" out of existence. My wife had moved to an apartment 30 miles away so I never got to see my son since I was not physically capable to drive that far and she refused to bring him to me to visit.

I had lost everything. To say the least, I was pretty much at the bottom, but I never gave up. I refused to let it get the best of me and fought like hell and make myself a new life.

I will not speculate on why she believed (and said) the things she did about you. But I can tell you from my experience, people change and lives changes. Sometimes those changes completely change ones perspective on their live. In my wife's case, she believed I was going to be crippled for the rest of my life and she could not stand the possibility of spending the rest of her life with a cripple.

Anyway, get a lawyer. She can't keep you from seeing your son unless you present a threat to him. Also, she can't keep you out of your home or away from your possessions without compensation.

When I finally got my ex-wife in court, she got crucified for her actions, lies and keeping me from my son.

Trust me, it will get better. Just take it one day at time and make your life what you want it to be. You have a right to your son and your possessions, don't let her take those from you.

Good luck

 

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Are you and her Christians?
Is God the Center of the marriage?

Just most marriages today end because God is not the center of the marriage.
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What do you mean by that? Me and my wife are both atheists and our marriage is doing fantastically well. God isn't the answer to everything.

 

tough luck man, don't give up, there always some light at the end of the tunnel.