Well.....jee.....never thought I 'd post something like this up on Honda-Tech, but seeing as most of you are older than me and more wise...I'm trying to see who else has dealt with a tragedy like this and how you bring the family back together after something like this.


My cousin....she was 30 something killed herself yesterday three weeks before her wedding. Her husband found her hanging in their apartment when he came home from work.....Poor guy.....I think he's screwed up for life.......She was diagnosed bi-polar and had been dealing with it troughout her whole life. My mother as well as my other cousin also have this disorder.

So this specific cousin of mine was like a daughter to my mom and they could always relate because they had the same disorder.....often they would talk for hours while my cousin would come to visit my mom. They had a very special relationship. Which is why I worry about my mom now. She is really sad as to be expected, but I don't want her to think of suicidal thoughts too because of the depression.....I might take off school for a little bit to be with her for a while......guess graduation might not come this quarter....

I dunno what to think about all this. I mean I am pretty mad that she did this to herself and didnt see a reason to live. She finished all her school and was about to start a family....I don't see why there wasnt another option....I guess I'll never understand it. I barely slept last night.....kept thinking about the last time i saw her.....trying to remember what she was like and what she said to me.....But I think the saddest thing to remember is that she said " I'll see you at my wedding" last time i saw her.

I remember her and her fiancee watching me work on my car..........I barely spent any time with her the last time she was here besides going out to eat.... DAMN.......


I guess the moral of the story.......Don't take people for granted....and dont leave things on bad terms.......they just might not be there when u next go to talk to them....i dunno......her dad hasnt said one word since they found out......

I hope someone can give some advice

 

I guess this topic is too serious so early in the morning.....sorry guys normally I wouldnt want to read this either......but I just want to know how everyone else has coped with it......i feel like **** right now

 

Sorry to hear man. Keep your head up. As for what to think, I dunno. I'd kinda feel like you. It sounds like she had a lot going for her.

 

I dunno life is so fucked up.....Only after she is gone do I really feel like I have something important to say to her....I wish she sould have talked to my mom or anyone before doing this. Maybe someone could have helped her deal with it.

 

Wow, I can't believe what I'm reading, I literally jumped out of my chair and everybody here is like what is the matter with him again...

My advice is seek the Lord and pray...He'll bring peace to you and your family. In the mean time, you know that you have my prayers.

 

my condolences.

 

sorry to hear of the bad news....

 

tragic bro. very sorry to hear it. there is no answer for this sort of thing. different people handle it different ways. some seek the lord as mentioned above, others just try to keep themselves occupied and hope time heals the wounds. it will always hurt, no matter what. there is no right way to mourn. the best thing anyone can do is hope that the person is in a better place now, and no longer in pain. always try to remember the good things. dont look back and say you didnt do enough. its not your fault this person decided to leave. make sure your mom knows you are there for her. you can finish school at any time. sometimes there are things more important than school. being there for your mom should be utmost priority right now.

 

Hey man that is life and it is wierd how life plays its cards. You have to deal with it cause there is nothing you can do about it. The worst thing you can do is dwell upon it. That does no good and gets you know where. When my sister diead a couple of years ago it was hard. Real hard! But you have to look at things like that happen for a reason. You may not know what the reason is but it could be anything such as bring your family closer to each other. Good luck and best of wishes.

 

I'll be praying for you/your family/her family & everyone involved.

 

oh wow.. i'm so. sorry i dont even know what to say
my little cousin actually jumped off a apartment building and killed himself few years back

 

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Some of the best advice I've ever seen posted on here.

I'm sorry about what happened and you and your family have my condolences. I can't say I know how you feel because I certainly don't (my grandfather attempted suicide but called my father to tell him goodbye, he rushed home and saved him, but I wasn't even born then).

Just posting here shows that you are willing to accept help, and that's a great first step in my opinion.

Good luck, I'm sure most of us are here if you need any support.

 

Man thats horrible hews to hear, i can relate, dont really care to go into details. But what i will say id that the lord helped me alot, prayer and guidance from others who are strong with faith helped me alot.

So my prayers go up for you and your family, may god bless all of you and comfort you and guide you.

Suicide is an option that should never be considered, but sometimes people think they can fix it all by doing that, but in all actuallity it just ends up hurting the ones around them.

and try to kep you head up, and make sure you pray for your mom. And def take action if you notice anything weird with her.

 

I never knew bi polar can be so serious. I sometimes feel bi polar.
I feel for you bro.

 

bipolar disorder can be very serious espically if it is misdiagnosed or mistreated, on the other hand people can live perfectally normal lives with psychothreapy and medication or a combo or both.

 

Tragic story . My heart goes out to you and your family. Hope you all pull through.

It's nice to know that H-T can pull together as a community for a member in need

 

My condolences to all of your family.


I can relate a little here, when I was 6 years old my Mothers younger brother commited suicide at age 33. He was a newlywed and a new father (8 mo. old boy) that had the world in the palm of his hand. He retired honorably and with a good rank from the Air force. And got a dream job working for General Electric in the midwest (fat salary, full benefits, sweet pension, etc.) He was living the American Dream. Big home, new cars, a doll for a bride and a new baby boy.

One day he came home, pulled into the garage, shut the door and left the engine running. My mom was never the same after that. Depression can be very deceiving in some people, and unfortunately suicide is rarely foreseen. May your cousin rest in peace.

I can feel your pain and concern. Just stay close to your Mom and show her all the love and support humanly possible.

 

a friend of mine committed suicide a couple months ago...he was only 27...the hardest thing to understand is why when he had so many things going for him. it's just one of those questions that probably won't be answered. the only thing you can do is remember the positive things that they accomplished in life and keep their memory alive.

 

I cannot relate to a suicide but I can for the loss. I lost my mother and father (devorced) 11 days apart. My mother moved away and I never knew what had happened until a neighbor stopped me at a traffic light and said " I'm sorry to hear about your mother " I was like HUH? He then asked me if that was my mother in the newspaper. I was like " whaddaya mean" He then asked me to pull off at the next place to pull over and told me what he'd read. So I didn't get to attend my own mothers funeral. I will say this to you now. If you are a TRUE believer of the man upstairs, Turn this over to him. Pray to him with your problems and concerns. He will help guide you down this tough road in life. The pain will lessen through time but will not depart over-night. Try to remember the "good" times you all had with her. Do not dwell on things you "wished you would have done differently" As for you mom, Just let her know that you are there for her and to help comfort her and make sure she is 1st on your list right now. Prayer is the strongest power in the world. My thoughts and prayers are out to you and the family. Take things one-day-at-a-time and one-stride-at-a-time. If I can be of any help just message me.....

 

i'm so sorry for the loss to yoo and yoor family . . .
just last month my good friend also committed suicide . . .
i guess it scared me for life also . . . cause i never expected it . . .
i guess the only thing we can do is keep our heads up
best wished to yoo and yoor family

 

I don't know what you believe, I'll be praying for you! you can still finish school and be their for your mom, I did that when both my parents were in prision and working two jobs...Stay strong the Lord provides through everything!

 

I have been there.. So i can say that you can not look at this like a logical decision.. When you are by polar it does not work that way. i wish i could explain. Your brain is just not wired the right way and the dumbist things will bring you to the brink. I am not by polar but my self best friend is well was i can say this it is tough. I am so sorry for your loss it too have been down that road. if you need advice or just some one to talk to drop me a line, i have been there and walked in those foot steps ...

 

Dang this sucks. Never happened to me but I can only imagine it's basically one of the worst things that can happen to a family.

My prayers go out to you, and her.

 

wow.... god be with yo uand your family bro.... sorry.....

 

Sorry to hear this...My former Wifes cousin did the same thing..i Was one of the last persons to talk to him..You will never understand why so the best thing is to focus on the good things..