UnoDaLush

The prev.owner had told me he took the car to Honda tech and they said a new solenoid would smooth out the shifting prob .I asked my friend for a second opinion and he said it had nothing to do with the solenoid . and Ive asked others opinions and the response back has been the solenoid has nothing to do with it .the car engine sounds /feels like its struggling to get in gear i have to drive the car like if it was a Manuel but its an automatic and after i get it in 2nd (past 40)a it feels better;sometimes the rpm go real high just to get there . i get this hard shift and it feels like the trans. gonna drop, also a hard down shift .when i come to a stop and idling the rpms go up and down but never past 2 1/2(3 sec. window ).

can the solenoid really be the problem ?

can anyone help me find other possible reasons why my baby is doing this?

Lude/dude

I would check to see if it has gearbox oil, but even better take out the box and see if any of the teeth are broken or missing. It could be a number of things, like is the gear box loose has it got all the bolts. I think you should just go to a gear box specialist. Don't think it's the solenoid.

EJay_Eight

Open up your TCU and see if there are any resistors, diodes, etc burned. Also is there any cel of some sort?